Your Identity Becomes Your Reality

 Humans being most unique creature on earth have a gift from heavens above called IMAGINATION. We cannot only imagine things about others but also about ourselves. We always listen that things about person's behavior and character from other. Someone is lazy or other doesn't obey the authorities and breaks law all the time. We have this kind of views about our family members especially kids, our colleagues and everyone who matters. We have literally tagged people in our minds for things we have judged. 

Let me tell you that it is not only with other people. We have also judged ourselves and made an image of self in our imagination. This imagination builds an identity on one self in their heads. Individuals try to protect that identity all the times. Our habits, our character and self image is based on that identity we have in our mind about ourselves.

There is no such thing like a bad human or a good one. It is all about the identity one has created in his brain. If someone has been tagged as a criminal, he would tend to continue such activities simply because that's what he is known for. It becomes his identity. He would start thinking that if he breaks the cycle what people will think about me? This is a big question. This question in our mind, this fear to lose our identity stops us from changing all the time. To build up the courage to break the cycle and create a new identity is tough. 

Best way to make this happen is to isolate yourself from people you know. Go somewhere and try to create another identity in your own as well as others mind. You will surprise old fellows when you come back. Moving out may not be a solution for everyone. Another solution may work for those especially if they have a supportive family. You call tell your family members recognize you with your new traits and talk highly of your new habits or character traits more often in gatherings and to other people. It helps you to create one's identity in eyes of other people and gradually it becomes reality of their own minds. 

We see this happening in our everyday lives especially in children. Parents which respect their children and tells them they are good kids try to behave better in their lives therefore becoming mature adults. Whereas, kids which are always scolded and disrespected for their mistakes become habitual and develops the identity of spoiled brats therefore becoming notorious or disturbed adults. This is exactly the case why an individual perform below average under supervision of one manager and outstanding when they work with someone else. Problem is not in the individual, its in the treatment he gets from the team or his superior. If you would like get best from your kids or your junior / subordinate. 

We need to make others realize that they are valuable and unique. We need to give them enormous amount of respect to make them imagine that they are worthy of that respect. People who will develop such identity in their minds will never let anyone disrespect them by avoiding embarrassment and becoming better selves.